Hum mein se bhoat kisi ka eh sawal common hain, ke — Khus Kaise Rahe? Humara life me sab khuc hain phir v hum khus nahi hai. Khusi kavi kavi koi baat se ya phir koi reason se milti v ha,lekin wo sustain nahi hoti ha. Phir wapas se hum wohi mayusi aur stress wali stage me pohach jate hain. Aur eh sab ke piche khuc khud ke aur khuc logon ka v asar hain ke hum jayada dair tak khus nahi sakte hain. Khusi stable nahi hoti ha, lekin sadness bana hi rahta ha. Aisa kuy?
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Mera sawal ha, hum khus kaise rahein. Kya koi aisa tarika hain ke jis se avi ish moment me hum khus raah sake??.. Apke dimag me ayega — humesa positive socho, Right! Lekin kya eh possible hain ke humare liye hum humesa possitve soch sake. Pure din mein humare dimag me 60,000 se jayada 💭 thought atea hain.
Lekin ap hi batao ke in me se negative jada hote hain ya positve.. Answer apke pass hain. Ap acche se jante hain negative thought jada atea hai aur ek baar agar humare mind me koi negative thought aah jaye toh hum uspar mano atak hi jate hain. Chaah ke v ush thought ko na rokh pate hain aur na hi uss se bahar nikal patea hain.
Toh question eh hain, ke hum apne mind ko negative thought se Postive me shift kaise kare?
Aur eh khuc dair ke liye na ho balke usko hum suatain v rakh sake. Yani negative thoughy jada tak humare mind ko capture kar na sake. Ayeea aur chalr jaye. Lekin humare sath thik iska opposite hota hain, ke negative bana hi rahta ha aur positive thought ataa ha aur chale jata ha, sustain nahi rahta.
Jab jab humlog koi seminar attend karte hai,ya phir motivational speec soon te hain. Khuc dair ke energy high ho jati hain. Bhoat Postive aur high energy feel karte hain lekin dhire dhire 1–2 din ke baad wapas se ohi purane situation me aah jate hain. Aisa hi hota hain na??
Kya koi aisa way hain jis ke waje se hum always positve state me raah sake? Positive soch sakte ha.. ?
Toh iske liye khud se sawal karein, aisa kya chij hain apke life me jis se apko khusi milti hain?
- Kids
- Family
- Friends
- Job
- Career
- Relationship
- Success
Apko kon si chij sabse jada khus karti hai. Toh ap me se koi kahega, family se! Koi kahega career is most important thing in our life. Koi kahega relationship, koi friends ya phir koi kahega Job aur kisi kisi ke liye unke kids unke khusi ka reason hain. Koi kahega mera eh dream pura ho jaye agar, toh mein humesa ke liye khus ho jaunga, lekin dekha gaya hain ke wo dream puri ho jane ke baad v insan koi na koi negative thought me fannsh hi jata ha. Khus wo raah hi nahi pata.
mein ek point eha batana chaahta hoon, Ke agar hum eh family, freind, relationship, job,dream se khusi milti hi hain.
- Toh wo sustain kuy nahi rahti. Kuy eh khsui stable nahi rahti hain?
- Kuy hum wapas se wohi state me pohach jate hain?
- Kuy hum life me jada taar inhi sare cheejon ke liye sad ho jate hai, dukhi ho jate hain?
- Kuy jin me hum khusi dhoond rahe hote hai un me se hi hume dukh milti hai?
- Wohi humare sadness ka reason hota hain. Akhir kuy?
Toh logic behind is — Gratification! The Gratitude.
The feeling of thankfulness.
“There is no other way to be happy, the only way is Contentment “
_Sandeep Maheswari
Agar hum satisfied hain usse jo humare pass hain(life,health,family,friends,realtionship,Job etc.) toh hum Khus hain.
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Gratification-Santosh ko hi toh hum Khusi bolte hain. Kahi hum :
Thodi dair ke fun, masti, enjoyment ko toh happiness nahi samaj rahe hain? Koi chij ke milne ke chaahat ko toh khusi nahi samajre? Life me agar ek accha job mil jaye,
ek sundar gori chitti wife ho, apna khud ka banglow ho, khud ka car ho, tab life complete hogi, tab real maino mein happy ho sakta hoon mein- Kahi ap ishe toh happiness nahi samaj rahe hain?
Actually hum ne pleasure ko happiness samaj liya hain – lekin eh sirf temproray enjoyment hain, happiness nahi.
Toh temproray enjoyment ya pleasure aur happiness ke bich ka fark ko hume samajna hain. Pleasure wo ho jo apko kisi chij ke liye, ya kisi reason ke liye, ya koi v thing ke liye apko instant majaa mile aur phir woh dhire dhire gayab ho jaye. Matlab wapas se wohi aah jaye jaha h the.
Lekin actual me Happiness ek aisa state hain jo bani hi rahe, jo kahi vanish na ho jaye. In simple words humesa khus rahne ka ek hi tarika ha, aur wo tarika ha कृतज्ञता की भावना, शुकराने का भाव, शुक्रगुजार रहना, जो है उनमें शुक्र अदा करना। A feeling gratification in our heart. A feeling of gratitude, thankfulness.
Ehi ek tarika hain, jis se ap humesa khus raah sakte hain, iske siwa aur koi rasta nahi hain. Lekin hum jo samajte hain Gratitude ke bare mein wo sirf upar upar hi jana ha. Humare liye Gratitude ka mtlb sirf Thank you tak hi simit raah gaya. Koi v deep me jana hi nahi chaahta, deeply isea samajna hi chaahta ya phir eh keahna galat nahi hoga ke kosis hi nahi karte.
Khair Aj hum eh v janenge ke Gratitude ko life me practically kaise utarna hain , Q ki is se important khuc v nahi hain. Agar eh samaj gaye toh samaj lijiye apka life ki saari problem chuu mantar ho sakta ha.. Mano gayab hi hoagaya..Mera matlab life ko ap sahi maino me samaj paoge aur tab apko problem problem nahi challenges lagegi aur isea apko solve karne me v khusi milegi.
Aisa nahi ha ke Gratification ko life me utarne se aur koi life me problem hi nahi ayegi. Problem remain rahegi, lekin Gratitude ko life me utarne se ap eh sikh jaoge, How to deal with it..
Apka thought process change ho jayegi aur tab apko koi v problem etni badi lagegi hi nahi jo apko mentally distrub kar sake. Aur jab ap mentally peace ko pohach jaoge toh apki life me khusi, happiness ka अनुभव हमेशा कर सकते हैं।
कहते हैं जो तुम्हारे पास है उसके लिए थैंक फुल रहो उसके लिए शुक्र अदा करो जरा सोचे आपके पास क्या है क्या है जिसके लिए आपको कदर करना चाहिए हम सब जानते हैं कि दुनिया में रहने के लिए तीन चीज की जरूरत हमें सबसे ज्यादा होती है रोटी कपड़ा मकान अब आप सोचें कि इन तीनों जरूरी चीजों में से आपकी लाइफ में आपके जीवन में कौन सी चीज नहीं है क्या आपके पास रोटी नहीं है क्या आपको पहनने को कपड़ा नहीं है क्या आपको रहने के लिए मकान नहीं है अगर यह तीन जरूरी चीज आपके पास है तो क्या यह कम है क्या इसकी कदर हमें नहीं करनी चाहिए क्या इसके लिए हमें शुक्र अदा नहीं करना चाहिए क्या इसके लिए हमें थैंकफूल नहीं होना चाहिए
कितने लोग ऐसे हैं दुनिया में जो मर जाते हैं क्योंकि उनके पास खाने को रोटी नहीं है कितने लोग ऐसे हैं जो फुटपाथ पर रह रहे हैं उनके रहने के लिए मकान नहीं है कितने लोग ऐसे हैं जिनके पास बस एक ही कपड़ा है जीवन जीने के लिए क्या आप की परिस्थिति इन लोगों से अच्छी नहीं है आप खुद से यह सवाल करें बहुत ध्यान से इस बात पर विचार करें कि आपकी परिस्थिति अभी कैसी है असल में हमारा मन इन चीजों पर सोचना चाहता ही नहीं है बारीकी से इस बात को देखना चाहता ही नहीं है
हमारा मन बस उस तरफ भागता है जो हमारे पास नहीं है जहां खुशी नहीं है humare mind ko कृतज्ञता के तेरा संतोष की तरफ लाना है। क्योंकि खुशी सिर्फ कृतज्ञ रहने में है।
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हमारा मन हमेशा ek common word hain jisse chipka rahta hain wo hain, Kash.. Ayea khuc example se samajte ha takr ap meri baat ko khud se relate kar pao.
- Kash mein Amir hota…
- Kash muje eh mil jaye wo jaye…
- Kash mera pass v ek bike hoti…
- Kash mere v ek car hoti…
- Kash mera khud ka ek business hota…
- Kash muje wo ladki mil jati…
- Kash meri wo ladke se shadi ho jati…
- Kash mere v apna makan hota…etc
Aisa bhoat khuc jiski hume आश रह जाती है और हमारा मन इसी Kash में चिपका रह जाता है। इससे हम आसानी से बाहर नहीं निकल पाते और यही कारण है कि हम pleasure me atke raah jate hain aur real happiness tak pohach nahi pate hain. Toh ab kya karein, probelm toh samaj me aah rahe ha na. Kaise isko solve karein?
Thought process- humara sub concius mind se humare thought bahar atea hain aur wohi thought humari वास्तविकता बन जाती है।
Mind > Thought > Visualize > Reality
Matlab clear hai, ke humare Mind sabse jada powerful hain, aur eha nikalti ha thought jo hum feel karte aur reality baan jati hain.
Agar hum apne mind ke thought process ko change kar sakte hain toh ultimately reality khud ba khud change ho jayegi.
Ap jarah se soche ke ap jab kisi ko help karte hain, aur badle me wo apko Thank you na bole aur kisi dusre se eh v kahe ke.. Area usne kia hi kya hain. Sab meine khud se hi kia ha.. Toh apko jab eh baat ki pata chalti hain toh apko kaisa feel hoga?
Soche! Ek aur example se samajte ha, apne apna ek Friend ko exam ke time bhoat help kiye take wo atleast pass kar jaye. Aur usne pasa v kar lia. Lekin wo eh baat maan ne ko raji hi nahi ke apne uski help ki ha, tab jakar usne eh exam pass ki ha, wo apko credit dena toh door apko ek thank you v nahi kahe… Apko kaisa lagega? Bura lagega na?
Sochiye jab aisa khud ke sath hota hain toh hume buda lagta ha, jab hum ehi kam ko dusre ka sath karte ha.. Toh unhe v toh bura lagega. Afterall we are human being. Hum sab prasansa, tareef pana,soonna pasand karte hain. Toh simple hain jo chijh ap dusro ko doge wohi apke pass return ane wali ha. Chahe wo jis v roop me ayea. Lekin aati hi hain.. Ap dhiyan nahi dete.
Ishi tarah jab hum apne thought ko gratification me shift kar dete hain, tab humara sochne ka, dekhna ka aur bolne ka najaria change ho jata hain. Tab ap ek alag zone me chale jate ho. Duniya ke baki log waha hi rahte ha lekin ap andar se peaceful feel karte ho. Aur jab ap peaceful ho jate ho toh apka sab kam aram se easily hona suru ho jata ha.
Eh concept ekdam galat hain, ke satisfied insan life me age nahi baad sakta. Balke peace of mind ke sath ap life me jo v kam karte ho, jo v decision ap lete ho wo sahi hota hain. Ab ap hi kahe ke ap irritating mind se jada accha decision le sakte ho na peaceful raahkar- Jawab apke pass ha.
Toh hume kya karna hain, practically hume roz ek kam ko karna ha aur muje pura yakin ha ke agar ap kam ko aj se ish post ko padne ke baad se suru karenge aur atleast 21 days tak continue v karenge.
Aap dekhna apki puri Zindegi badal jayegi.Ap jab sadaa Shukargujar rahna sikh jaoge toh khusi apse kahi door jane wali nahi ha. Kuyki आत्म संतुष्टि ही real happiness hain.
Apko karna kya hain, daily koi v time jab ap bilkul free aur relux feel kar rahe ho ush time ek pen aur ek diary lena hain aur list bana na ha- apke life me kya kya hain.
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Just list banaye apke pass kya kya ha. Aur jab list baana chuke tab use ekbar jaroor dekhe aur eh soche ke ap jaisa life lead kar rahe ha, waisa life na jane kitne logon ka dream life hain. Aur apko already waisa life mili hain,ish baat ka baariki se ehsaas kare aur kritagya swikar karein.
Aap jab apne life me already exist wo saari things ke lie grateful feel karna sikh jate ho. Yakin mano ap life me hume sa khus rahne ka tarika ko sikh chuke hote ho. Apko bassh humesa apni life ko dekhni hain, dusre se kavi khudko compare nahi karein. Q ki apke pass jo v hain wo bhoat kisi ka sapna hain.
Isliye thankful rahein aur always apne blessing par focus karein. Q ki app jis par apni focus rakhte ho wo badti hain. Ap life me real happiness chaahte ha aur focus problems me kar rahe ha toh reasult me hume kya milega.
Ish practice se apke 3 faide honge :
Frist ke apko eh realize hoga ke apke pass kitna khuc hain, jo har kisi ke pass nahi hain. Jo apko being grateful rahne me madad karega.
Second ap jab apni blessing ko likhna aur iski list bana na suru karoge toh apko eh ehsaas hoga ke apke life me 99.99% cheejein sahi ho rahe ha
Third apki focus sirf aur sirf blessing par hogi jo ap life me accha ho raha raha ha uspar hogi, toh apka blessing aur badta chala jayega. Q ki jis v chij par ap focus karoge wohi badega.
«Har pal khus rahiye, yahi kaafi hai, yahi humari jaroorat hai issh se jayda khuc nahi »
-Mother Teresa
«Acceptance of what is, Is happiness »
-Sandeep Maheswari
